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Advent & Christmas Music

Seems like everyone needs some good Christmastide songs on the cheap. Have you downloaded these two Argyle Project eps? Some really good songs for free. Noisetrade has some great downloads too, like Drew Holcomb’s A Neighborly Christmas.

Friends of this blog know how much I love Andrew Peterson’s Behold the Lamb of God, you can stream the whole album here.

Finding good advent songs is a challenge, so I will share a little playlist on spotify. Unfortunately, some songs aren’t available if you don’t own them. If you want to stream or purchase a few, check out Cardiphonia’s By All Adored for a few obscure songs that are really good. Kate keeps requesting Mike Crawford’s Life Up Your Heads, which is also available to stream or buy at bandcamp.

The First Sunday in Advent

Almighty God, give us grace that we may cast away the works of darkness, and put upon us the armor of light, now in the time of this mortal life in which thy Son Jesus Christ came to visit us in great humility; that in the last day, when he shall come again in his glorious majesty to judge both the quick and the dead, we may rise to the life immortal; through him who liveth and reigneth with thee and the Holy Ghost, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Advent at Home

Part of a continuing series on celebrating the church year.

Advent means coming. It is a season of waiting and expectation where we remember the longing of God’s people for a savior and our own longing for things to be made new in Christ’s second coming. We live in the in between, and Advent is a time of focusing on the hope we have in His return. Advent is the first season in the church year, beginning four Sundays before Christmas and ending Christmas Eve. Celebrating Advent at home is a way of focusing on the incarnation during the busy holiday season.

I love to gather and give ideas for celebrating at home, there are so many great things we could do! One helpful way of thinking about it is to determine what you want to make a solid tradition, what you are growing into, what you are doing for a season. The backbone of your celebration might be something as simple as lighting candles, but it is something you can do with children of any age and something they will remember for a lifetime. You can fill in with activities and practices more tailored to where your family is at right now.

A basic symbol of the Advent season is the advent wreath. Traditionally it is an evergreen circle with four candles for the four weeks of Advent, and an optional center Christ candle. Most traditions use three purple candles, one pink, and a white Christ candle. Different people have different ideas about what the candles stand for, but the pink candle is typically used the third week of Advent and represents joy. You light one candle during the first week of Advent, two during the second, and so forth. Redeemer San Antonio (PCA) has put together a good weekly devotional to use with an advent wreath.

To guide children through the Old Testament story of waiting for a redeemer, many families use a Jesse Tree with ornaments made from symbols that represent the stories for each day. This is a newer practice and there isn’t one set of symbols everyone uses. I ended up creating my own list of symbols and corresponding readings that incorporated both familiar stories and important ones that don’t end up in many story bibles, and wrote some meditations and prayers to go along with them. My friend Stephanie has a different list, with similar daily devotions. The RCA has a guide appropriate for preschoolers. If you like the idea, but want to skip the symbols and tree, a good way of doing this would be to read through the Old Testament stories in the Jesus Storybook Bible during the Advent season. I like Christ the King PCA’s daily Advent devotional, though the emphasis is more focused on Christmas itself.

Some families set up the stable of a creche the first week of advent, with any animals and begin Mary and Joseph’s slow journey to Bethlehem. The shepherds and sheep can be nearby and the Wise men far off. Each day during advent they move Mary and Joseph a little closer to the stable, to arrive Christmas Eve. (This works well if you have a nativity set your children can’t break!) If I had a collection of creches, I’d display complete sets with one coming together through the season. On Christmas, the shepherds come and the wise men start their journey, arriving January 6th.

Advent calendars have become popular in both Christian and secular circles as a way to count down the days. There are so many cute ideas for crafting them. We have a wooden calendar, and I fill each day with a treat or a note about something we are doing that day to celebrate, even simple things we’d do anyway like “make hot chocolate after school” and “bake cookies for the neighbors.” You could make a paper chain of these sorts of ideas as a “calendar” with a stapler and a few sheets of construction paper.

We love to sing during Advent. There are many great Advent hymns, “O Come, O Come Emmanuel,” “Come Thou Long-Expected Jesus,” “Comfort, Comfort Ye My People” and “Savior of the Nations Come” are some of my favorites. When you have already been hearing Christmas music everywhere for weeks, it’s hard to NOT sing Christmas carols during Advent. I prefer to stick to Advent only for the first two weeks and start adding in some Christmas carols during the third week. We also delay putting up our tree until that point as well, to give Advent some time all its own. Some people don’t put one up until Christmas Eve, so I think of my “third week” rule of thumb as a good middle ground. I really enjoyed reading about how Kelly has started putting up her tree at the beginning of Advent and using Chrismons (symbols of Christ) as ornaments until Christmas Eve, when they add Christmas ornaments. If you need some advent decor, I made a few free printables you can find here.

I plan on making every conceivable paper star (and I think I’ve pinned them all on Pinterest) as an Advent craft. Stars are part of our Jesse Tree, and of course, in the Christmas story. And cutting / folding is right up Kate and Lexi’s alley these days.

For teens and adults, Watch for the Light would be great devotional reading. City Church Philadelphia has a good Advent Prayer Guide that is simple and not too time-consuming. Advent is also a good time to try praying the Divine Hours. There are many Advent books for children, I’d love to hear about some of your favorites. And also, please share any Advent traditions you have in your family!

Sunday Reads: 2 Weeks Worth

The End of Cheap Coffee? via @GOOD http://t.co/R3KARWKh (please, God, no!)

Generation Sell: “the self today is an entrepreneurial self.” http://t.co/JZKmnxqi

How Iran Persecutes its Oldest Religion via @cnn http://t.co/oC6exBpa

A look at Coach K, the Winningest Devil in NCAA history http://t.co/kpe6c2sn #tohatelikethisistobehappyforever

Michelle Bachmann’s use of a Christian precept is shared by the constitution (1936 Soviet) http://econ.st/vFqLID

The Moral Power of an Image: UC Davis Reactions in @TheAtlantic http://t.co/9Lxvtv5T

Will Twilight Obsess New Generations in Twenty Years? via @vulture http://t.co/FvY2EvVq

Wordless Wednesday

Light in the Darkness

As someone with very disordered sleep, I dread falling back. It takes away an hour of daylight when I am always up (and there truly are not that many hours of the day that’s true.) Insomnia is a lonely condition and the light of day is a comfort and cheer. However, November is not all bad. I made a little list of all its joys to compensate for the dreary darkness.

College basketball season starting. Crisp weather. Sweaters. Pumpkin everything. The blissful Starbucks period where Pumpkin Spice Lattes and Peppermint Mochas overlap. Autumn colors. The spirit of gratefulness. Thanksgiving food. Wool socks. Homemade hot chocolate. Advent.

This week I have baked pumpkin muffins and cast on a new scarf for Kate. I will take a walk and breathe in the crisp air in the daylight, while drinking something warm and wonderful. I will finish my Thanksgiving menu and make Lexi a costume for her Thanksgiving feast. I will cheer at a basketball game. I will finish my Jesse Tree ornaments and start writing some thoughts on Advent to share with y’all. And I will make the best I can of the short days.

The Fellowship of Fragility

I already tweeted a short quote from this Op-Ed by Stanley Fish, but it is so good I want to preserve it here at greater length:

“And what have I learned along the way? Three things, closely related. The first is that people are often in pain; their lives are shadowed by memories and anticipations of inadequacy, and they are always afraid that the next moment will bring disaster or exposure. You can see it in their faces, and that is especially true of children who have not yet learned how to pretend that everything is all right and who are acutely aware of the precariousness of their situations.

The second thing I have learned is that the people who are most in pain are the people who act most badly; the worse people behave, the more they are in pain. They’re asking for help, although the form of the request is such that they are likely never to get it.

The third thing I have learned follows from the other two. It is the necessity of generosity. I suppose it is a form of the golden rule: if you want them to be generous to you, be generous to them. The rule acknowledges the fellowship of fragility we all share. In your worst moments — which may appear superficially to be your best moments — what you need most of all is the sympathetic recognition of someone who says, if only in a small smile or half-nod, yes, I have been there too, and I too have tried to shore up my insecurity with exhibitions of pettiness, bluster, overconfidence, petulance and impatience. It’s not, “But for the grace of God that could be me”; it’s, “Even with the grace of God, that will be, and has been, me.”

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Settling In

After saying she missed our old church every week since we moved, Lexi made it through the last two Sundays without complaining. This past week we went to an evening service at another church and she asked me why they didn’t start out singing “Come, let us worship the Lord, for we are His people, the flock that He shepherds…” which is what we sing every week at our new church to open worship.

I see the corner being turned for her at school as well. She really loves her teachers and has a lot of older kids she is attached to as well. It is so neat to see her with the sixth grade girls, who give her piggy back rides and make her feel special and cool.

It’s a little glimmer of hope that Memphis is incrementally feeling more like home. I can’t believe we’ve been here over four months now. It feels simultaneously like I’ve lived here for just a few weeks and I left Birmingham ages ago. We are still strangers in a strange land.

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Odds & Ends VIII

It’s cider season. Try this cider-brined pork loin recipe, it’s a favorite.

Easily reached 25 listens of this song over the weekend. Still playing it, I must really need to hear it.

Making my first Thanksgiving dinner this year, so I am getting excited contemplating recipe ideas. Who wants to come eat with us?

You have two more days to enter the giveaway for my new etsy shop. I continue to add new designs, too.

Philosophies, Revisited

By nature, I am a fairly philosophical person. I like to know why I am doing what I am doing, and parenting has certainly been no exception. As our girls have gotten older, the day-to-day of parenting has changed. Recently, I wondered how the ideas I contemplated when they were toddlers have stood up as they have grown.

You are your child’s first view of God compelled me to find one sentence I really wanted to strive for in parenting. I chose “gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.” This is still extremely relevant with older children but I meditate on it much less.

One of the advantages of parenting older children is that they are trying to understand God and his character better for themselves, so I am able to talk about that directly and engage with them about who God is. When they were babies and toddlers, I did that, but the conversation was mostly one-sided. I was relying much more heavily on the indirect. However, I am also their first view of what it looks like to follow Jesus, so living out gospel principles (do justice, love mercy, walk humbly) is just as important as it was before.

You can not parent by remote control was huge to me with toddlers. I strove to follow up my directions with actions, helping them to comply without much fuss from either of us. e.g. if I said “Don’t touch that,” I would get up and move them away. As children mature, they are better able to listen and control their impulses, so I do not have to get up and make sure they do everything I say every moment.

This maturity makes my life a lot easier, but I think that the general principle is still entirely relevant. Even if they can do what I tell them to do, it is good for all of us to have accountability. I need to follow up and make sure what they can do on their own is done well. I need to stop and take time to engage them throughout the day, so they know how important they are to me.

I am really thankful for the hours we spent talking about children and parenting while pushing Kate in her stroller. These ideas have grown well with the girls, but they are more subsets of those bigger philosophies about what we believe about children and what kind of people we want them to be. Being philosophical about parenting has given me good lenses to evaluate practical everyday strategies, and also made it easy to take or leave those strategies as needed, because the bigger picture ideas provided continuity.

It’s probably time to revisit those big ideas and hone them. We have a long way to go on this journey.

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