When people talk about the difficulties of parenting an infant, the first thing that’s generally discussed is what happens at night. Having survived the first year of nighttime parenting and getting ready to go there again in less than six months, I want to record some thoughts and observations I picked up this year to remind myself as I go through it again and to share with others who are in the trenches.
Sleep has always been an idol for me. I’m not a morning person. I slept through more than one exam (and once, a final!) in college because sleep overcame me, in spite of setting multiple alarms. I’ve also slept through hurricanes and riots, but who’s keeping score? I hated the sleep interruptions being big and pregnant brought and I dreaded nighttime parenting long before Kate made her debut.
God made infants incredibly light sleepers. Not only are their sleep cycles much shorter, giving them more opportunities to rouse, they go through twice as much light, active (REM) sleep as adults do. This may be a mystery to you akin to “why do mosquitoes exist?” but God designed them this way to help them survive. Continue reading →