Wonder by R.J. Palacio

“I know I’m not an ordinary ten-year-old kid. I mean, sure, I do ordinary things. I eat ice cream. I ride my bike. I play ball. I have an XBox. Stuff like that makes me ordinary. I guess. And I feel ordinary. Inside. But I know ordinary kids don’t make other ordinary kids run away screaming in playgrounds… I won’t describe what I look like. Whatever you’re thinking, it’s probably worse.”

From the first page of R.J. Palacio’s debut novel, Wonder, readers are rooting for Auggie Pullman, who due to the 27 surgeries needed to help correct his craniofacial abnormalities, has been homeschooled all his life. But now, he’ll enter the middle school at Beecher Prep, like a lamb headed for slaughter.

Auggie is keenly aware of how people react to his face, from averting their eyes to staring to talking behind their hands about him. Auggie, his parents and his sister had created some level of comfort on their block and in their normal routine, and even through things like a toy astronaut’s helmet he wore everywhere when he was a few years younger. But now it is time to face the world, and readers come along for the journey.

Although Auggie is a character that induces a great deal of sympathy, there is a depth and realness to his character. He loves Star Wars, he tells good jokes, and he loves his dog, not unlike most of the young boys I know. Because he is more than his exterior, this book is able to transcend the “after school special” land that a book about a child with a birth defect often remains in.

Palacio’s choice to tell the story through sections with different narrators is what propels it into award-winning territory. Hearing from Auggie’s point of view is very important, but hearing from his sister Via, and some of the children at school adds another dimension to Wonder that works to its advantage. And it’s rare that so many points of view are given and done well in a book for young readers.

One line that is repeated by the teenager characters in the book is “the universe was not kind to Auggie Pullman.” And though this is true, and painfully real to readers, Wonder is not bogged down in Auggie’s suffering. It’s a book with a great deal of heart and joy, and a message that will resonate with both children and adults without seeming forced or contrived. The universe may not always be kind, but we are all able to be. I am thankful for the reminder. (10/10)

I received a free copy of this book for review purposes. The opinion expressed is my own.

February Books

The Paris Wife by Paula McLain is a novel that explores Hemingway’s first wife and their experiences in Jazz Age Paris. If you liked Midnight in Paris, I’d recommend it. (7.5)

How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr was fantastic. It’s a YA novel told in two voices, each relatable to high schoolers. I was absorbed in the story of the adoption, and of Jill’s grieving process. (9)

Ginger Pye by Eleanor Estes was a sweet read aloud. The chapters were long and a little verbose, but the girls liked the story. We probably should have read it over the summer when we had more time in each reading session. (7)

Jesus + Nothing = Everything by Tullian Tchividjian was reviewed in full here. (8.5)

In the Garden of Beasts by Erik Larson was a fascinating look at the beginning of Hitler’s regime through the experiences of the American Ambassador and his family. (8)

A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle is celebrating its 50th year of publication in 2012. It holds up remarkably well and I can’t wait to share it with Kate and Lexi. (10)

Wordless Wednesday

Be Kind

It was beautiful outside yesterday, so I took the girls to the park. While I was sitting watching the girls, I started to hear two moms about fifteen feet away start escalating in volume in their conversation.

One of the moms was a bit older, pushing a stroller and with several other children coming and going. The other mom was younger, with a toddler about two years old on her hip.

“If you believe…” was the phrase that drew my attention to their conversation. The older mom was getting more emphatic. “The Bible clearly teaches that if you discipline your son, you save his soul from hell. SAVE. HIS. SOUL. You must discipline him.”

The younger mom was apologetic, and speaking more softly. “He hasn’t… we haven’t decided…”

The older mom continued her citing of Proverbs, and the younger one tried to graciously withdraw from the conversation. After a minute or two, she walked away, and the older mom called out after her, “You think about that! It was nice to meet you, Stacey!” Then she turned to one of her older children and said, “some people just need a little help.”

I saw no blood. I heard no crying. I have no idea what a two-year-old could have done to provoke a stranger to give his mother such a tongue-lashing.

There’s a quote that’s all over pinterest: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” It’s probably misattributed to Plato, but it’s a good sentiment.

The child you see misbehaving in public might have severe special needs. He may be a foster child recently placed. It may be the very worst day of his life. His mother may be suffering. Maybe she is grieving the loss of a parent, struggling with depression, lonely, abused or mistreated.

Perhaps that misbehaving stranger’s child bit your kid, or hit her, or pulled her hair. If there is no permanent damage, no need to visit a doctor, how should you respond?

I believe the older mother thought she was blessing the younger mother with her sage advice. From all indications, she was satisfied, even proud, of the interaction.

How much more could she have blessed her with kindness? A gentle word of forgiveness, an act of compassion, could have thrown this younger mother a lifeline. “It’s okay, I’ve been there, too.”

I presumed that these two women were friends, so I did not intervene. When I realized they were strangers, I started to go after the younger mother, but she was moving quickly towards her car. I wish I had stopped her and given her a hug.

The love of Christ compels us to love others. Using scripture as a weapon isn’t loving, it’s generally ineffective, and at it’s worst, borders on spiritual abuse.

By God’s grace, we can do better. Be kind, y’all. And keep reminding me to be kind, too.

Jesus, thou Joy of Loving Hearts

Jesus, thou Joy of loving hearts,
Thou Fount of life, thou Light of men,
From the best bliss that earth imparts
We turn unfilled to thee again.

Thy truth unchanged hath ever stood;
Thou savest those that on thee call;
To them that seek thee thou art good,
To them that find thee all in all.

We taste thee, O thou living Bread,
And long to feast upon thee still;
We drink of thee, the Fountainhead,
And thirst our souls from thee to fill.

Our restless spirits yearn for thee,
Where’er our changeful lot is cast;
Glad when thy gracious smile we see,
Blest when our faith can hold thee fast.

O Jesus, ever with us stay,
Make all our moments calm and bright;
Chase the dark night of sin away,
Shed o’er the world thy holy light.
[Bernard of Clairvaux, 12th c.]

A Lenten Confession

I’m tired of being busy.

There’s always something to do, and ten more things that I ought to do. This things consume an inordinate amount of my thoughts and my time.

I’m tired of feeling like I’ve spent all day with people and not really stopped and listened to them.

I am starting to think that busyness is one of my biggest obstacles to loving people well.

Without busyness, I already struggle enough with self-centeredness and lack of care for others. But busyness makes me think that my agenda and what I need to accomplish is the most important thing for the day.

Honestly, it’s usually not. Things can wait.

May I make time and space to love as I ought to love, and serve as I ought to serve.

Lord, have mercy. Accept my repentance. Change my heart. Let me show forth your glory in this world.

Sometimes I Share

Here’s a fantastic song I’ve been listening to a lot lately. It encourages me.

| Hold On by the Alabama Shakes |

Wordless Wednesday

Jesus + Nothing = Everything

Tullian Tchividjian’s Jesus + Nothing = Everything examines the fundamental truth of the gospel and how to embrace Christ’s finished work for believers. I would not describe it as an exposition of Colossians, but Colossians features prominently. I would not describe it as a spiritual memoir or a particularly personal work, but occasional details of Tchividjian’s difficult year transitioning through a church merger and feelings of inadequacy provide a thread for readers.

Readers can think of Tchividjian’s Jesus + Nothing = Everything as a way to recalibrate and assess our functional beliefs and ask ourselves if we are adding anything to the gospel. There are many good books in this stream right now, and I find that a good thing. Like this book asserts, the gospel is not the first step of the Christian life, it’s the hub. We must constantly remind ourselves of the fundamental truths, we never grow out of them. And so reading this book and others like it (Steve Brown’s Scandalous Freedom comes to mind) from time to time is a good exercise for all of us, because we are prone to “think of the gospel as God’s program to make bad people good, not dead people alive” (pg 116.)

Though Jesus + Nothing = Everything is focused on fundamentals, there is a great deal of meaty content to ponder. For example: “Our performancism leads to pride when we succeed and to despair when we fail. But ultimately it leads to slavey either way because it becomes all about us and what we must do to establish our own identity instead of resting in Jesus and what he accomplished to establish it for us” (pg 46). “The gospel alone empowers and emboldens us to press on and strain forward with no anxiety over gaining other people’s sanction or good opinion–even God’s! All the care and love and value we crave–full and final approval–we already have in Jesus” (pg 92.)

The book moves backwards from Everything to Nothing to Jesus, and then forward again. The structure is not bad in itself, but Tchividjian is fairly repetitive. This is a good trick for preaching, to repeat sentences that summarize your point well, but in writing it can feel poorly edited, (e.g. he said that exact same thing three pages ago.) It wasn’t a huge distraction, and it did help me not to miss any critical points, but it was quite noticeable.

Overall, Jesus + Nothing = Everything is a helpful read for any Christian. I’d particularly recommend it for those coming out of more legalistic traditions and trying to overcome those tendencies. As we walk in faith, it is easy to stray into moralism. This book is a reminder of the simplicity of the gospel – that Jesus himself, his life and his work, are worth everything. Nothing in our hands we bring, simply to the cross we cling. May we not forget. (8.5/10)

I received a free copy of this book for review purposes. The opinion expressed is my own.

Odds & Ends XI

+ Added this continental US map you can personalize to my etsy shop.
+ Really appreciated this Atlantic article addressing the Memphis-Shelby County school merger.
+ Hannah from Very Vanilla made a delicious looking version of my chocolate bread pudding for Valentine’s Day with a rum caramel sauce.
+ I found this article from the NY Times Magazine about how companies learn our secrets fascinating (and a tiny bit scary.)
+ Kathy Keller on why the city is a wonderful place to raise children was an encouragement to me.
+ Also encouraging: how many people found this blog last week searching for lent related topics like “lent for toddlers” and “keeping lent at home.” Way to plan ahead, Christians.
+ I am in denial about Downton Abbey’s season finale this Sunday. I would have to despair about no new episodes if I gave it much thought, and defeatism is so very middle class.

Keeping Lent at Home 2012

Lent starts in one week. I’ve added several new ideas to last year’s lenten ideas post. And free printables, for the few of you who might like that sort of thing.

Love Me Some Pinterest

The girls got some angry birds valentines from Michael’s mom that they filled out to their classmates and were very excited about. In their previous classes it felt like everyone gave small gifts or candy, so I wanted to do a little something without going overboard on time or money. Lexi’s class has a few kids with allergies or who are gluten free, so food / candy stresses me out. I saw an idea on pinterest, spent $3 on glow bracelets, used paper and printable labels I already had, and voila!

Now everyone gets two valentines from Kate and Lexi, they got to practice their handwriting, and I wasn’t stressed. Win-win-win.