Odds & Ends VI

Things look different around here. I changed the theme up, because I was ready for a change. In more “catching up with the rest of the blogosphere” news, you can now subscribe to comments. Regrettably, I can’t figure out how to let you log in with your twitter or openID accounts (feel free to suggest a plug in, kind readers.)

I also switched up the way I integrate facebook to encourage substantial conversations to happen in just one place. So far, RSS graffiti has been quick, reliable and worked well on the whole (as long as I post longer than 3 sentences.) The historian in me rejoices in the prospect of not having two comment threads happening at once when I write something people want to talk about (you know, every six months.) Facebook is great for leaving a quick like or short comment and I certainly welcome those bits of encouragement.

Over on goodreads you can read my review of a sweet middle grades novel, The Friendship Doll by Kirby Larson.

School starts this week and we are all thrilled. Hooray for school!

Feeling the Loss

One of my closest friends in Birmingham, on one of our very last days there, made what seemed in the moment to be a most peculiar comment to me. “It’s important when you leave a place and its people to have some distance for a while. Feel the loss. Then you can figure out how to go forward and what your new relationship looks like.”

Knowing this friend well, and her propensity for quiet wisdom, I reflected on this a great deal. As life worked out, several of my friends were in very busy seasons anyway, so it made sense to not be in contact. It has been difficult, though, and more than a little lonely. Honestly, it’s also probably impacted my Memphis interactions too as I am so craving conversations with women I get a little overeager.

In spite of the difficulties, I think it’s been a really good exercise for the month and that I’m starting to see individual people and the ways I hope our friendships will continue more clearly. It will likely continue to unfold through the next few months. Birmingham is temptingly close to Memphis, and there have been days I wanted to throw the kids in the car and just drive. Get a hug. Cuddle a new baby. Sit for a while. Those things will happen (and probably sooner than later) but it’s also felt right to feel the loss for a little while.

A Perk of Boredom

Since M was gone again, I finally made our own version of the family rules I’ve seen everywhere lately.

I included things we say all the time, lyrics from songs I sing to the girls, etc. So even though we didn’t come up with them together, they have a lot of personal flavor. Both girls said they sounded great. Now to get them printed and hung, probably in a different color, even though I like this grey a lot.

To Do

Maybe if I post a list of things I need to do this week, it will get done more quickly. M has been away a lot lately, and solo parenting sucks the life out of me. That plus moving malaise have made me pretty unproductive. But it’s a vicious cycle and perhaps if I got some things done, I’d be less grumpy.

bake a thank you gift
book reviews (1) (2) (3)
gather & label all supplies for Monday
find bobby socks for school uniforms
finish unpacking my clothes
make a library run
mend Kate’s chapel day shoes
organize in the office

Mystery of the Faith

Every week in the middle of the communion liturgy, we proclaim the mystery of the faith and recite these words: “Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again.” Sometimes I really need to be reminded that our faith is centered on a wonderful mystery, the mystery of how God became incarnate, humbled himself to die on a cross, was resurrected, and will return to make things right. It’s not the way anyone would predict God would save his people. And yet, that’s what he did. It helps to remember this when things aren’t working out as I expected. His character is to work things out in less than predictable ways.

God of My Life to Thee I Call

God of my life, to Thee I call;
Afflicted, at Thy feet I fall;
When the great water floods prevail
Leave not my trembling heart to fail!

Friend of the friendless and the saint,
Where should I lodge my deep complaint?
Where but with Thee, whose open door
Invites the helpless and the poor!

Did ever mourner plead with Thee,
And Thou refuse that mourner’s plea?
Does not the Word still fixed remain
That none shall seek Thy face in vain?

That were a grief I could not bear,
Didst Thou not hear and answer prayer;
But a prayer hearing, answering God
Supports me under every load.

Fair is the lot that’s cast for me!
I have an Advocate with Thee;
They whom the world caresses most,
Have no such privilege to boast.

Poor thou I am, despised, forgot,
Yet God, my God, forgets me not;
And he is safe, and must succeed,
For whom the Lord vouchsafes to plead.
[WILLIAM COWPER, 1779]

8 Years

Thankful for eight years of mutual society, help and comfort, in prosperity and adversity. I am convinced, the best is yet to come. Happy Anniversary to us.

Spotify

Spotify is pretty amazing. You can discover a lot of new music before you buy it or don’t even buy it at all (the artist is getting royalties from your plays, after all!) The library is large, so comparisons to netflix instant and other services seem really hollow. They don’t have some major artists or some very indie acts, but they do pretty well with the in between.

If you are already using Spotify, here’s a playlist I made of music I’ve been appreciating so far in 2011. Being able to easily share playlists through both twitter and facebook is another great feature.

We have a few more invites if you’d like one.

July Recipe Roundup

Here are some recipes around the internet I’ve tried lately. If I tweak a recipe and really love it, I will try to give it a post of its own as I have in the past.

Baked Parmesan Tomatoes from Eating Well: I subbed basil for the oregano and they were delicious.

Eggplant & Mozzarella Melt from Everyday Food: Really thick but pretty good, Lexi ate eggplant, so that’s a win.

Greek Chicken Salad from Annie’s Eats: I didn’t follow the recipe, just used the idea of taziki instead of mayo, added tomato and feta, and felt like it needed a little something more so I added a little bit of balsamic vinagrette.

Roasted Pork Chops and Peaches from Real Simple: I liked it but I probably wouldn’t make it again.

Taziki Sauce from Susie: very good and very cucumber-y!

Meditation for the Margins

I posted this several years ago when I was reading Not the Way It’s Supposed to Be : A Breviary of Sin and thought about it the other day. In this time of transition and reflection, it is something worth meditating on. You can read a little more context here.

“A spiritually whole person longs in certain classic ways. She longs for God and the beauty of God, for Christ and Christlikeness, for the dynamite of the Holy Spirit and spiritual maturity. She longs for spiritual hygiene itself—and not just as a consolation prize when she cannot be rich and envied. She longs for other human beings; she wants to love them and to be loved by them. She hungers for social justice. She longs for nature, for its beauties and graces, for the sheer particularity of the way of a squirrel with a nut. As we might expect, her longings dim from season to season. When they do, she longs to long again.

She is a person of character consistency, a person who rings true wherever you tap her. She keeps promises. She weeps with those who weep and, perhaps more impressively, rejoices with those who rejoice. She does all these things in ways that express her own personality and culture but also a general ‘mind of Christ’ that is cross-culturally unmistakable.

Her motives include faith — a quiet confidence in God and in the mercies of God that radiate from the self-giving work of Jesus Christ. She knows God is good; she also feels assured that God is good to her. Her faith secures her against that ceaseless oscillations of pride and despair familiar to every human being who has taken refuge in the cave of her own being and tried there to bury all her insecurities under a mound of achievements. When her faith slips, she retains faith enough to believe that the Spirit of God, whose presence is her renewable resource, will one day secure her faith again.

Since faith fastens on to God’s benevolence, it yields gratitude, which in turn sponsors risk taking in the service of others. Grateful people want to let themselves go; faithful people dare to do it. People tether to God by faith can let themselves go because they know they will get themselves back.”

Home

At least for the foreseeable future, this is our home in Memphis:

We live upstairs, in a large brick duplex on a tree-lined street filled with children. The kids on our block often have impromptu evening kickball or wiffleball games, and Kate and Lexi are pretty delighted about that. Midtown Memphis is full of neat places to explore and we’ve only scratched the surface. I am hopeful that this street will be a place we can learn and grow as neighbors and this city is one we will come to fight for and treasure. Right now we are still strangers in a strange land.

Crazy, Stupid, Love

I got a chance to see an early screening of Crazy, Stupid, Love. I’d been looking forward to it, as the primary actors are all ones I enjoy a great deal. If you haven’t seen Emma Stone in Easy A, you must. Easily the best teen movie in over a decade.

Crazy, Stupid, Love starts with happily married Cal being dropped a bomb by his wife, Emily: she’s had an affair and wants a divorce. The film traces his response to her mid-life crisis – a crisis of his own, aided and abetted by Jacob, the quintessential lady-killer who helps Cal find his groove (and some style.)

Like many modern films and television shows, CSL is a “dramedy.” When the genre is at its best, like in CSL, it really works, reaching the audience on many levels. The whole theatre laughed uproariously at the goofy parts and seemed moved by the story, which was insightful and sweet. Using Steve Carrell, Julianne Moore, Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone made a big difference to the dramatic parts of the story. Because they aren’t known for being in tons of puffy rom-coms, they came off as sincere and likable (except for maybe Moore, but I think that was a conscious choice on her part.) The plot devices seemed less formulaic in their capable hands.

Yes, I said formulaic, but I still found it well-written, sometimes the clique is the right choice. I appreciated the cultural references which were mainstream and fun. More daring was the soundtrack, but it fit the film well. The cinematography also aided the storytelling of the film, there was a good amount of grain and handheld shooting that gave it a more organic quality.

I wouldn’t say this is a “must see in the theatre opening weekend!” kind of film, but I don’t see many movies in the theatre these days (tickets + babysitter = not worth it.) I think most people will enjoy it, though, whenever you have the chance to see it. (Rated PG-13)